If you’re reading this, you probably don’t need someone to explain why  you feel resentful. You know. You’re exhausted. Your body has changed. Your time isn’t your own. The mental load feels relentless. You are carrying the invisible things, the feeds, the appointments, the remembering, the planning, the anticipating.... what's for dinner!!!!!! And even if your partner is helping, something still feels uneven. You don’t want to feel resentful. But you can’t seem to switch it

Many couples arrive at therapy saying the same thing: “We didn’t used to be like this.”  They remember laughing more, feeling closer, and experiencing a sense of being a team. After having children, however, their relationship feels tense, distant, and fragile. What often feels most frightening is the thought that if things feel this bad now, perhaps the relationship itself is broken. For many couples, that fear sits in the background, shaping how they interpret every argumen

We don’t always notice how much we’re trying to control things until we hear someone who has stopped fighting it. I was listening to Catherine Ryan talk about her babies and sleep and she said, very simply, “I'm in a season where I get interrupted sleep and I have babies in my bed, and that's ok” It wasn’t advice. It wasn’t a method. It was just acceptance. And something about that really stayed with me. It wasn’t that anything about my son changed in that moment. He still wa

Why the Victoria and Brooklyn Beckham Story Is Affecting So Many People I’ve been watching the Victoria and Brooklyn Beckham coverage and I keep thinking about how many people this will be quietly hurting. Not because of the celebrity part.But because of the feelings underneath it. I’ve spoken to a lot of clients about this in sessions this week, and that’s why it felt so important to write about. When the same themes keep showing up in the therapy room, it’s usually because

W hen we think about happiness, we often imagine constant joy. Smiling all the time. Feeling motivated. Feeling positive. Feeling “on top of things.” But real happiness doesn’t actually look like that. Real happiness is quieter. It’s steadier. It’s about feeling safe in your own life, trusting yourself, and knowing that a hard day doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong. Happy people don’t have the best of everything. They make the best of everything.And that includes the m

Anxiety in motherhood can feel relentless, it can feel like you never get to switch off, constantly worrying, always feeling on edge, always trying to catch up.. As a therapist and coach who supports maternal mental health, I see how often women believe they are broken because they feel anxious all the time, when in reality, their nervous system is simply stuck in overdrive. If anxiety feels like it’s always there, quietly running in the background, it doesn’t mean anything h

October is Domestic Abuse Awareness Month, and while so much of the focus is (rightly) on recognising unsafe behaviours, I want to speak...

Matrescence is a word most of us have never heard of—and honestly, it blows my mind that I didn’t come across it until my daughter was...

Resentment after kids is real — and it doesn’t mean your relationship is broken. It’s often a sign you’ve been in survival mode for too long, carrying too much without feeling seen. The good news? Small shifts in communication and connection can make a big difference. You don’t need perfection — just a starting point.

If I could change the way we talk about baby loss, here’s what I’d say… Not with clichés. Not with silence. Not with “at least it was...

Why I’m Starting a Weekly Newsletter One of the best things about being a therapist and coach is that I’m constantly learning—whether...

We all know the theory  behind gentle parenting—stay calm, set boundaries, co-regulate, validate feelings. But here’s what the books...

The Moment I Realised I Had Lost Myself After I had my second baby, I felt like a shell of the person I used to be. My body had changed, ...

For years, I felt like I was constantly behind . Like no matter how much I tried to stay on top of things—housework, appointments,...

For most of us our inner critic is the loudest voice in our head? The one that constantly whispers (or shouts) that you’re not doing...

Matrescence isn’t about losing yourself—it’s about peeling back the layers of who you thought you were supposed to be and rediscovering who

Our relationship with our mother plays a huge role in shaping who we are, especially during matrescence —the transition into motherhood....

Have You Always Been the One Who Tries to See the Bright Side? Do you tell yourself things like: “I just need to work harder, and things...

Becoming parents changes everything—especially your relationship. Many couples find themselves feeling more disconnected after having...

These journal prompts will help you understand yourself better, reduce anxiety and help you feel more joy in Motherhood.