Couples Therapy

You know something needs to change. You just don't know how to change it.

Maybe you keep having the same argument, communication has completely broken down, trust has been damaged, or you just don't feel as close as you used to.

The frustrating thing is, you can both really want things to be different and still have absolutely no idea how to get there.

Very few of us are actually taught how to communicate well in relationships. We bring our own childhoods, experiences, triggers and ideas about love into a relationship and then wonder why sometimes it feels so bloody hard.

Couples therapy gives you somewhere to slow it all down, understand what's actually happening between you and start doing something different.

What we might work on

Every couple is different, so therapy won’t look exactly the same for everyone. But we might look at:

Why you keep having the same argument, even when you both swear you’re not going to.
How to communicate what you actually mean, rather than getting defensive, shutting down or saying something you regret.
Rebuilding trust when something has happened that has changed the relationship.
Feeling more emotionally and physically connected again.
Understanding how your childhood, attachment patterns and previous relationships might be showing up in this one.
Boundaries with parents, in-laws and other family members.
Navigating big life changes, parenting, grief, sex, resentment or simply feeling like you’ve lost each other somewhere along the way.

How I work

I’m not here to decide who’s right or wrong.

My job is to help you slow things down enough to understand what’s actually happening underneath the arguments.

We’ll look at the patterns you’ve both fallen into, where they might have come from and what each of you needs to start doing differently.

I work in a person-centred and attachment-led way, but I’m also practical. I don’t want you to leave every week thinking that was interesting and then go home and have exactly the same argument.

The aim is to understand each other better, communicate differently and actually start changing what happens between you.

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