If you’re reading this, you probably don’t need someone to explain why  you feel resentful. You know. You’re exhausted. Your body has changed. Your time isn’t your own. The mental load feels relentless. You are carrying the invisible things, the feeds, the appointments, the remembering, the planning, the anticipating.... what's for dinner!!!!!! And even if your partner is helping, something still feels uneven. You don’t want to feel resentful. But you can’t seem to switch it off. The...

Many couples arrive at therapy saying the same thing: “We didn’t used to be like this.”  They remember laughing more, feeling closer, and experiencing a sense of being a team. After having children, however, their relationship feels tense, distant, and fragile. What often feels most frightening is the thought that if things feel this bad now, perhaps the relationship itself is broken. For many couples, that fear sits in the background, shaping how they interpret every argument or moment of...

We don’t always notice how much we’re trying to control things until we hear someone who has stopped fighting it. I was listening to Catherine Ryan talk about her babies and sleep and she said, very simply, “I'm in a season where I get interrupted sleep and I have babies in my bed, and that's ok” It wasn’t advice. It wasn’t a method. It was just acceptance. And something about that really stayed with me. It wasn’t that anything about my son changed in that moment. He still wakes in the night....